You love to win. No doubt about it. Winning is fun, exhilarating, and gives you a sense of success and accomplishment. If given a choice, you would pick winning over losing…every time. But here’s the thing…it’s the games you LOSE that teach you…if you let them.
You feel unsuccessful when you lose. Like you’ve failed. You can be defensive and angry about it. So how do you take those feelings and turn them into life lessons?
Losing with grace is a skill everyone could all improve upon. Losing with grace and being happy for the other team or person opens up your hearts and minds to the idea that even putting yourself out there to compete is a win in itself. And when someone is more successful that you are, they should be acknowledged for it.
Losing can teach you to look back on your actions, take accountability, and determine what should change. Rather than being defensive and placing blame it gives you a chance strategize, plan and set improvement goals for the next game.
Sometimes no matter how hard you try or prepare, you won’t get the victory. Rather than feeling defeated, losing gives you the chance to exercise your resiliency skills. Resiliency in its most basic form is the ability to recover. This skill is needed to successfully manage the times in life that you don’t come out on top. Resiliency can’t be learned from winning.
You should always applaud your efforts and willingness to get in the game regardless of the outcome. Repeatedly putting yourself in “the game” is a win.
Getting in the Game—Priceless!
I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. Michael Jordan