Is it just me, or have you turned into a nation of robotic words and motions with no personal connection? You walk into a store, make a purchase at the cash register, and the clerk says “have a nice day” without any emotion…and without even looking at you! Someone bumps into you in the hallway and they mutter, “excuse me”, without a pause, without a look, without any real sincerity. Your boss says “good job” without the least bit of realism or gratitude. Don’t you hate that?
“Going through the motions” has permeated every aspect of life. You no longer think about what you say, you don’t stop to look people in the eye, and you don’t look for any bit of authenticity in our words. It’s just the same words, over and over…blah, blah, blah, blah. There’s no authentic connection.
The same is true of our actions. You go through the day, the week, the month, on autopilot until one day five years later you’re like, “how did I get here”? It’s similar to when you’re driving your car, get caught in a day dream, look up and suddenly 50 miles have passed. You think, “how did I get here”?
Is that what our lives have come to? Autopilot and blah, blah, blah? If authentic relationships and living a meaningful life are what you want, you won’t get it this way. And while I can’t speak for everyone, I can speak for myself and many of the clients I’ve coached—authenticity and meaning are a big deal.
So how do you get more authenticity and meaning into our lives and reduce the blah, blah, blah?
You do that by being intentional. Being intentional means that you think about what you want, who you are, and what you want to express. You think about the connections you want to make. You think about your goals, your dreams, your passions. You think about what you want to leave behind. And from there you make intentional choices. You don’t speak without thinking . You don’t mutter and not make eye contact. You MEAN what you say and you connect with the person you’re talking to. You also break out of the normal routine and decide what activities, tasks, and actions should be a part of your day. You stop doing what you did yesterday just because it’s comfortable and familiar.
When you plan your week, ask yourself, “what do I want to feel and experience this week”. Who is it important for me to connect with? What is most important in my life and what will I do to make sure I invest is that.
I know you’re all thinking that’s easier said than done. I get that for sure. However, if you expect to enjoy life and not just exist, making a meaningful life a priority is the only way to get there.
For example, you can say over and over that getting healthy is really important and something you want and need to do. But if you never get to the gym, is it really that important to you? Yes, you’re busy, you have jobs, kids, cooking, cleaning, homework, laundry…. But look at the gyms and fitness centers. They’re full of people JUST LIKE YOU that MAKE TIME to invest in themselves and what’s important to them.
You all get the same 24 hours every day. Will you continue to “go through the motions” and make excuses or will you take ownership of your life and live intentionally?